Are You Cultivating the Belief That You Are Enough?
As I navigate and support my adult daughter with health issues, I am confronted with this belief of believing I AM ENOUGH. A recent conversation with my daughter has brought up a lot of doubt for her around having to “keep up” in our culture: landing a good job, dating a great guy, living in a location she desires to settle, and saving enough money. It is a message based heavily on external measurement by the outside world.
I think back to my upbringing, and it was the exact same way I was raised. The message reinforced to me was go to college, marry a great guy with a good career that can take care of you, have babies, and you’ll have the perfect life. Then you will be ENOUGH.
Of course, I didn’t exactly follow that path – I went to school, found a career I loved, landed a great job, and married someone with a personality similar to my mother, which gave me lots of opportunities to work through all my subconscious false beliefs that were not true for me. (Honestly, I am still working those beliefs at a deeper level). I ended up getting a divorce and raising two kids on my own with challenge after challenge. I am still learning to grow my internal system to a place of being so stable and secure in myself that the belief I AM ENOUGH feels true for me. It is a daily practice in our culture, but I am slowly learning more each day and harnessing this new belief deeper inside me. Working with my nervous system, my thoughts, my triggers and managing my energy in a more productive way serves what I believe, not what I was taught. Through this process, I see how this one belief about how we live our lives gets passed down from generation to generation. As I have unconsciously put pressure on my daughter to “measure up,” how is she supposed to align to her own truth and live her purpose with that kind of pressure?
How are the rest of you doing with this belief? How are you harnessing internal strategies and structure to actually believe it? OR are you just continuing to go through life believing you aren’t enough in all the ways that show up in your life: conforming to what others say verse what you really want, not having enough money, not finding work you love, a restlessness deep inside of not feeling deeply content or not possessing a deep trust that all is well. These lead to dysfunctional relationships.
Please respond and let me know – I am genuinely curious and, quite honestly, I hope I am not alone in what I am experiencing.
This has inspired me to offer small group sessions on the BE Whole Journey – working with participants and supporting them in leaning into acceptance of who they are based on their mindsets, behaviors, and living into what they truly believe and desire.
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I am on a mission to support those interested in living and being from a new reality that supports who you are and increasing the trust you hold that you are enough in all areas of your life.
Pema Chodron states in her book, Comfortable with Uncertainty, that resistance is the fundamental mechanism of the ego, and this causes us to suffer. If we experience resistance inside ourselves, it more than likely is at the hand of the ego. If this is the case, then how do we get back aligned with our true nature and the belief that we are enough?
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Be Well and know your true nature is enough.