When we think of job searching, we tend to think about things we should be doing. I would like to direct your attention inside and begin to observe how you are BEING in your life. Granted, there are always things we need to DO to create our next position, but the way we are feeling and being also plays a large role in our success.
Consider this – when we are in desperation mode we are operating from a place of fear. Our decisions, the thoughts we think and the energy we convey can feel negative and restrictive. But when we are relaxed we allow ourselves to go with the flow, have fun and trust ourselves and our decisions. Desperation breeds fear and stress, which stop the natural flow of opportunity. Fun and relaxation breed confidence, ease and allowing.
So what are you doing to relax and have fun? Are you allowing yourself breaks from the job search? I know budgets are tight for many job-seekers, but it doesn’t have to cost money to relax. For some, it is taking an occasional nap or a hot bath at the end of the day. For others, getting regular exercise like a hike or bike ride can shift the thoughts in a more positive direction, even after just 10 minutes of doing the activity. This time of job-creation is the perfect time to do some reflecting on what strategies you can incorporate to relax and take YOU time. The more you learn to take care of yourself in this way while acknowledging your work, the easier it will be to maintain a positive frame of mind. And people and employers like positive vibes.
Give yourself permission to take breaks in the middle of the day to breathe, walk, laugh, etc. When you create regular patterns of self-care in this way, you think more clearly, work more effectively and feel happier. That all adds up to being more relaxed and letting the ideas and opportunities flow. I find when I take breaks in the middle of my day I feel better and work much more effectively. I invite you to share what you do to relax and what simple techniques help you shift your mental state.
Remember, you are more than your job and your job search. Pay attention to your feelings and you will begin to enjoy the journey!